BDSM for Beginners: Games to Start Slowly

Limits Talk: BDSM Truth or Dare

A first conversation about kink, disguised as a game. Do it with clothes on.

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Truths

1. Would you rather be in control or give it up?
2. What is a hard no for you?
3. What is something you would try once?
4. What word should be our safe word?
5. How do you want to be cared for afterwards?
6. What do you want to be called during a scene?
7. Which is hotter: being tied or being told?
8. How do you feel about marks the next day?
9. Which tool scares you most, and which excites you most?
10. What is your favourite kind of pain, if any?
11. Do you want to be praised or degraded? Or neither?
12. What would make you feel unsafe?
13. What should I do if you go quiet?
14. Do you prefer rules that last a scene or a whole day?
15. What kind of punishment turns you on?
16. What kind of punishment would actually upset you?
17. Do you want a collar? What would it mean to you?
18. What part of your body is off limits?
19. How long could you stay in one position?
20. Have you ever been spanked? Did you like it?
21. Would you like to be blindfolded the whole scene?
22. What do you want to feel at the end of a scene?
23. What do you need from me the next morning?
24. Which role do you see me in more naturally?
25. What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?
26. Would you rather obey slowly or rebel and be punished?
27. What is a fantasy that is only for talking, not doing?
28. Do you want to be tied to the bed or to a chair?
29. How often do you want to play like this?
30. What would a perfect first scene look like?

Dares

1. Hold my wrists above my head for one minute
2. Give me an order and see if I obey
3. Put the blindfold on me for the next round
4. Spank me once, as hard as you think I like
5. Kneel for 30 seconds
6. Describe the scene you want, in detail
7. Call me by a title until your next turn
8. Ask permission before touching me, for the rest of the game
9. Let me put the collar on you
10. Stay perfectly still while I tease you for one minute
11. Thank me after every touch for one minute
12. Choose our safe word and say it out loud
13. Show me with your hand how hard you like to be spanked
14. Kiss my feet
15. Let me tie your wrists for one round
16. Count out loud as I spank you five times
17. Give me three rules for the rest of the evening
18. Beg for a kiss
19. Lie across my lap
20. Let me run the ice cube anywhere I want for 30 seconds
21. Kneel and present your wrists
22. Use the paddle on me lightly three times
23. Say "yes, Sir" or "yes, Ma’am" to everything for one round
24. Hold eye contact while I give you an order
25. Stay on your knees until I say you may stand
26. Let me pick a punishment for your next skipped dare
27. Pull my hair gently and tell me what to do
28. Put your hands behind your back and keep them there
29. Tell me one thing you want me to make you do
30. Give me aftercare for five minutes, right now

Kink Discovery Cards

Draw a card, each answer yes, no or maybe. Try the ones you both say yes to.

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1. Blindfolds: Being blindfolded, or blindfolding your partner.
2. Restraints: Soft cuffs, a scarf or a tie around the wrists.
3. Spanking: Light, playful, or firm. Agree on the scale first.
4. Dirty talk: Describing what you want, out loud, in detail.
5. Orders: One partner gives instructions, the other follows.
6. Toys: Using a toy together, or choosing a new one.
7. Temperature: Ice, warm oil or a massage candle.
8. Denial: Being brought close, then made to wait.
9. Roleplay: Playing characters for an evening.
10. Watching: Watching your partner touch themselves.

Aftercare Cards

Draw one after an intense scene, or any time you need to feel close.

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1. Blanket: Wrap your partner in a warm blanket and hold them.
2. Hydrate: Bring water and something sweet.
3. Soothe: Rub lotion on any marks, slowly.
4. Praise: Tell them exactly what they did well.
5. Debrief: Each says one thing you loved and one thing to change.
6. Stay: No phones for 15 minutes. Just lie together.
7. Tomorrow: Promise a check-in message tomorrow.