Kink Discovery Cards
Draw a card, each answer yes, no or maybe. Try the ones you both say yes to.
Play safe: safe word and limits, restraints and rope, spanking and impact, wax and ice, blindfolds
Any task can be skipped. Anyone can stop the game at any moment, no explanation needed.
Safe word and limits
- Agree on a safe word before you start. A common system: "yellow" means slow down, "red" means stop now.
- If someone can’t speak (gag, mouth busy), agree on a signal instead: dropping an object or tapping three times.
- Check in regularly. Silence is not a yes.
- Plan aftercare: water, a blanket, cuddling and a calm talk afterwards.
Restraints and rope
- Never put anything around the neck.
- Check hands and feet often: numbness, tingling, cold or blue skin means untie right away.
- Keep safety scissors within reach to cut rope fast.
- Never leave a tied-up person alone, not even for a minute.
Spanking and impact
- Hit only fleshy areas: the buttocks and the back of the thighs.
- Never hit the lower back (kidneys), spine, tailbone, joints, head or neck.
- Start light and build up. Keep watching your partner’s reactions.
Wax and ice
- Only use low-temperature massage or soy candles, never ordinary household candles.
- Test wax on your own wrist first and pour from higher up to let it cool.
- Keep wax and ice away from the face and genitals, and keep ice moving instead of holding it on one spot.
Blindfolds
- Guide a blindfolded partner when they move. No sudden pain or surprises they didn’t agree to.
You'll need
- Blindfold
- Restraints
- Paddle
- Vibrator
- Ice cubes
- Candle
- Safety scissors
What's inside
- Blindfolds: Being blindfolded, or blindfolding your partner.
- Restraints: Soft cuffs, a scarf or a tie around the wrists.
- Spanking: Light, playful, or firm. Agree on the scale first.
- Dirty talk: Describing what you want, out loud, in detail.
- Orders: One partner gives instructions, the other follows.
- Toys: Using a toy together, or choosing a new one.
- Temperature: Ice, warm oil or a massage candle.
- Denial: Being brought close, then made to wait.
- Roleplay: Playing characters for an evening.
- Watching: Watching your partner touch themselves.