Play safe: safe word and limits
Any task can be skipped. Anyone can stop the game at any moment, no explanation needed.
Safe word and limits
- Agree on a safe word before you start. A common system: "yellow" means slow down, "red" means stop now.
- If someone can’t speak (gag, mouth busy), agree on a signal instead: dropping an object or tapping three times.
- Check in regularly. Silence is not a yes.
- Plan aftercare: water, a blanket, cuddling and a calm talk afterwards.
You'll need
- Massage oil
What's inside
- Blanket: Wrap your partner in a warm blanket and hold them.
- Hydrate: Bring water and something sweet.
- Soothe: Rub lotion on any marks, slowly.
- Praise: Tell them exactly what they did well.
- Debrief: Each says one thing you loved and one thing to change.
- Stay: No phones for 15 minutes. Just lie together.
- Tomorrow: Promise a check-in message tomorrow.