Play safe: safe word and limits, anal play, edging and denial
Any task can be skipped. Anyone can stop the game at any moment, no explanation needed.
Safe word and limits
- Agree on a safe word before you start. A common system: "yellow" means slow down, "red" means stop now.
- If someone canโt speak (gag, mouth busy), agree on a signal instead: dropping an object or tapping three times.
- Check in regularly. Silence is not a yes.
- Plan aftercare: water, a blanket, cuddling and a calm talk afterwards.
Anal play
- Use lots of lube and add more often. The body does not make its own lubrication there.
- Start small and go slowly. Pain means stop, not push through.
- Only use toys with a flared base. Anything without one can slip in and need a doctor to remove.
- Never go from anal to vaginal without washing the toy or changing the condom.
- Silicone lube can damage silicone toys: use water-based lube with them.
Edging and denial
- Edging is a game, not an endurance test. Stop if anything feels painful or uncomfortable.
- Punishments should be playful and agreed in advance.
You'll need
- Wand
- Vibrator
- Dildo
- Lube
What's inside
Toy
- Wand
- Rabbit
- Bullet
- Suction toy
- Dildo
- Fingers
- Two toys at once
- The one you use least
Where
- Clit
- Inside
- Both
- Nipples first
- Through your underwear
- Inner thighs, then up
- Anal
- Your choice
Intensity
- Lowest
- Low
- Medium
- High
- Highest
- Change every 30 seconds
- Pulse
- Wave
- Lowest, then highest
- Highest in bursts
Position
- On your back
- On your stomach
- Sitting up
- Kneeling
- Legs wide
- Legs pressed together
- Standing in the shower
- Riding a pillow
- Legs up
- On all fours
Edges first
- None
- 1
- 2
- 3
- 4
- 5
Finish?
- Yes
- Not this round
- Yes, then keep going
- Only on the lowest setting
- Twice
- Roll again
If you finish early
- No touching for 48 hours
- Next session: double the edges
- Toy on the lowest setting only, next time
- Confess it to your partner
- Start the next session with the plug in
- No finishing next time