Play safe: safe word and limits, anal play, wax and ice, edging and denial
Any task can be skipped. Anyone can stop the game at any moment, no explanation needed.
Safe word and limits
- Agree on a safe word before you start. A common system: "yellow" means slow down, "red" means stop now.
- If someone can’t speak (gag, mouth busy), agree on a signal instead: dropping an object or tapping three times.
- Check in regularly. Silence is not a yes.
- Plan aftercare: water, a blanket, cuddling and a calm talk afterwards.
Anal play
- Use lots of lube and add more often. The body does not make its own lubrication there.
- Start small and go slowly. Pain means stop, not push through.
- Only use toys with a flared base. Anything without one can slip in and need a doctor to remove.
- Never go from anal to vaginal without washing the toy or changing the condom.
- Silicone lube can damage silicone toys: use water-based lube with them.
Wax and ice
- Only use low-temperature massage or soy candles, never ordinary household candles.
- Test wax on your own wrist first and pour from higher up to let it cool.
- Keep wax and ice away from the face and genitals, and keep ice moving instead of holding it on one spot.
Edging and denial
- Edging is a game, not an endurance test. Stop if anything feels painful or uncomfortable.
- Punishments should be playful and agreed in advance.
You'll need
- Vibrator
- Massage oil
- Mirror
- Candle
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What's inside
With
- Hands only
- Favourite toy
- Shower head
- Pillow
- Massage oil
- Something new
- Wand
- Rabbit
- Plug
- Two toys
Pace
- Very slow
- Slow build
- Stop and start
- Fast
- Edge three times first
- However you like
- Speed up every minute
- Lowest setting only
- Match a song
- Edge five times
Mood
- Lights off
- Candles
- Favourite fantasy
- Audio story
- Mirror
- Music on
- Lingerie on
- In the bath
- Dirty audio
- Silence