Play safe: safe word and limits, anal play, strap-on
Any task can be skipped. Anyone can stop the game at any moment, no explanation needed.
Safe word and limits
- Agree on a safe word before you start. A common system: "yellow" means slow down, "red" means stop now.
- If someone can’t speak (gag, mouth busy), agree on a signal instead: dropping an object or tapping three times.
- Check in regularly. Silence is not a yes.
- Plan aftercare: water, a blanket, cuddling and a calm talk afterwards.
Anal play
- Use lots of lube and add more often. The body does not make its own lubrication there.
- Start small and go slowly. Pain means stop, not push through.
- Only use toys with a flared base. Anything without one can slip in and need a doctor to remove.
- Never go from anal to vaginal without washing the toy or changing the condom.
- Silicone lube can damage silicone toys: use water-based lube with them.
Strap-on
- Adjust the harness so it sits snugly and the toy doesn’t wobble: better control means less risk.
- The giver can’t feel what the receiver feels. Let the receiver set the depth and pace, and keep talking.
You'll need
- Strap-on
- Lube
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What's inside
Truths
- Have you ever fantasised about being pegged?
- Which position would you want to try first?
- What makes you nervous about it?
- Would you rather be slow and gentle or be told what to do?
- What size would you start with?
- What would you like her to say while she does it?
- What is the first thing that comes to mind when you think of a strap-on?
- Would you rather she take control or you guide her?
- Have you ever explored with a finger or a toy alone?
- What would make you feel safest the first time?
- Do you want to watch in a mirror?
- Would you rather she be dressed or naked?
- What do you want her to do with her hands while she’s behind you?
- Do you want to be stroked during it?
- Which would turn you on more: begging for it or being told to take it?
- What do you think it feels like for her?
- What warm-up would you like most?
- Have you ever watched pegging porn? What did you like?
- What would you call her during it?
- Would you rather be face up or face down?
- What would you want for aftercare?
- What do you think would surprise you most?
- Would you want to try it again the same night?
- Which of your fantasies would she enjoy most?
- What harness or toy colour would you choose?
- Do you want her to talk dirty or stay quiet?
- What is one thing that would make you say stop?
- How do you think it will change how you see her?
- Do you want to plan it or have her surprise you?
- If you had to describe the experience you want in one word?
Dares
- Let her put a finger in for one minute
- Help her put on the harness
- Use your mouth on the strap-on for 30 seconds
- Kneel and ask her nicely
- Lie face down and let her massage your back and bottom
- Ride the strap-on for one minute
- Let her tease you with lube and fingers for two minutes
- Bend over the bed and wait for her
- Wear a small plug until your next turn
- Let her grind against you with the strap-on
- Say exactly what you want her to do
- Hold eye contact while she enters slowly
- Let her set the pace for one minute, no complaints
- Stroke yourself while she watches
- Kiss her while she holds the strap-on
- Let her guide your hips
- Get on all fours for 30 seconds
- Let her spank you while you ride
- Thank her after each slow thrust for one minute
- Ask her for more, out loud
- Let her blindfold you for the next round
- Lie back with your legs up for her
- Let her use a vibrator on you at the same time
- Tell her how it feels, in detail, while it happens
- Spoon with the strap-on in for one minute, no moving
- Kiss her neck while she’s behind you
- Let her put the cock ring on you
- Beg her not to stop
- Let her choose the next position
- Pick a dare for her, she must do it with the strap-on on