Play safe: safe word and limits, anal play, strap-on
Any task can be skipped. Anyone can stop the game at any moment, no explanation needed.
Safe word and limits
- Agree on a safe word before you start. A common system: "yellow" means slow down, "red" means stop now.
- If someone can’t speak (gag, mouth busy), agree on a signal instead: dropping an object or tapping three times.
- Check in regularly. Silence is not a yes.
- Plan aftercare: water, a blanket, cuddling and a calm talk afterwards.
Anal play
- Use lots of lube and add more often. The body does not make its own lubrication there.
- Start small and go slowly. Pain means stop, not push through.
- Only use toys with a flared base. Anything without one can slip in and need a doctor to remove.
- Never go from anal to vaginal without washing the toy or changing the condom.
- Silicone lube can damage silicone toys: use water-based lube with them.
Strap-on
- Adjust the harness so it sits snugly and the toy doesn’t wobble: better control means less risk.
- The giver can’t feel what the receiver feels. Let the receiver set the depth and pace, and keep talking.
You'll need
- Strap-on
- Lube
What's inside
- He puts the harness on her
- Oral on the strap-on first
- He rides, she doesn’t move
- Slow, eye contact the whole time
- Bent over, hair pulling
- Mirror so he can watch
- She talks him through every move
- Switch to a bigger toy
- He asks for every thrust
- Spin again